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"How can EMDR, a trauma therapy, improve my performance? I don't even have PTSD" Let me tell you something most people don't realize, EMDR isn’t just about healing the past, it’s also about optimizing the present. For those in high-stress, high-performance roles, special operations, first responders, medical teams, even your tween/teen athlete, really anyone who must perform under pressure, EMDR can be a game-changer. EMDR clears the mental clutter. When your nervous system

What Is EMDR? Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing , or EMDR, is an evidence-based therapy that helps the brain process distressing experiences that have not been fully resolved. EMDR does not erase memories, instead, it helps the nervous system reprocess experiences so they no longer feel like they are happening in the present. The memory is still there, but the emotional charge changes. Many clients say: "I could see the image vividly, but now the details are blurr

Secondary Trauma: When Coworkers are Impacted Critical incidents rarely impact just one person. In close-knit teams, patrol squads, firehouses, units, dispatch centers, trauma is shared. 1. Hearing the Incident Secondhand Still Affects the Body Coworkers might experience: Sleep disruption Increased irritability Heightened startle response Trouble focusing Emotional exhaustion Replay or rumination over what happened Increased blood pressure/stress levels Your nervous system do

Ever had one of those days where you know you feel something , but you can’t quite put it into words? You’re not angry exactly, but not fine either. Just... meh. That’s where the emotion wheel comes in. The emotion wheel is a simple but powerful tool that helps you identify more than the basic: mad, sad, tired, etc. It breaks emotions into layers from broad feelings like anger  or fear  down to specific ones like frustrated, betrayed, anxious,  or insecure. Why does that matt

Finding a therapist can be hard. There are many people trained to provide psychotherapy. These licensures are designated with letters such as: LPCC, LCSW, LPP, LPA, etc. While all of these licensures indicate at least a master's level training in mental health, there are even more letters to sort through when we talk about therapy modalities clinicians may use. While this alphabet soup can be challenging to navigate, most modalities are fairly comparable. In fact, research

Situational awareness= survival But what if you are at home, with your family, eating dinner? Of course you still need to be somewhat...

No matter what space I am in, I hear leaders discussing similar challenges. One challenge I have heard brought up in many spaces is the...

Psychotherapy Modalities for Military & First Responder Populations High-stress, trauma-exposed communities need strategic, efficient,...

Last week, I was meeting with a local Sheriff I collaborate with discussing developing a preventative mental health framework for his...

Long before I was a mental health clinician, I was a Special Operations spouse, knee deep in TDYs, deployments, and young motherhood...

Where do we even begin? It can be hard to initiate conversations that you know will create friction, especially when you’re a SOF spouse...

When seeking mental healthcare, the options for training background and approach are endless. The advantage of this is no matter what you are seeking help for or how you would like to approach the problem, there is most likely a helper aligned with your needs. The downside? It can be hard to understand the nuanced differences in approaches to care.

First published Dec 2024 on militaryspouse.com The decorations. The presents. Move the elves! Oh, and don't forget teacher presents, work...

For the first 8 years or so of my marriage, I avoided everything military. FRG meeting? I’ll pass. I have to go on post? No thank you. I...

First seen on militaryspouse.com You know that feeling when you walk into a room full of people you don’t know? I have learned it can be...